Positive thoughts, emotions and actions are sometimes hard to adopt in what seems to be a negative world. We all go through hard times yet amazingly we seem to survive. What is it that makes some people more positive and more in control while others seem to have trouble surviving? Perhaps it’s a different, positive outlook on life and knowing what tools to use to change things more easily.
Some of the time we are the ones that cause our own problems. We take small incidents and think about them and toss them round our minds until they become huge incidents. So instead of thinking positive and following it through with positive action, we create a negative mind set. So before you get angry and worked up about an issue stop and think if it’s really a problem, or if there is some action you can take to make the situation more positive and therefore change things.
There are many negative things happening in today’s world. We need to cope with pollution, poverty, work stress, domestic violence, addiction and the list goes on. Is the world any different though? Was there ever a world which was more positive? Think back over the centuries to the wars and tribulations of other centuries. Every era had its issues. Every life goes through hard times. It’s the way we handle those that makes the difference. Some things we need to accept and some things we need to stand up there and make noise about to get them changed.
However if you can’t change things then don’t lament over them. There is a quality of calmness that goes with acceptance. Many of us have trouble accepting the way things are and it’s the resistance that leads to more suffering. So with every issue you have three choices – either move on, do something about it or accept what is happening. There is no point in wallowing in anger or self pity. There is no point in worrying. All these things do nothing for the situation or issue. The bottom line is that if you want a positive lifestyle and if we as a planet want a positive world then YOU need to change your negative living into positive living. Yes, one person can make a difference so no more hiding behind your belief that your solitary opinion does not matter. It does.
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The great people of this world that have lived a relatively positive life were the ones that did not give up. They held the belief that in life there is no such thing as failure only learning opportunities. Learning from your mistakes is one of the best things you can do. Change the way you think instead of waiting for something good to happen. Go out there and make it happen.
One way to do that is to appreciate the present moment and to live in that moment. Your cat playing with the ball and looking at you that way will never happen quite the same way again. Your child running excitedly through the door with this particular ribbon he won in the relay will never happen again. The flowers catching the sun on the windowsill will never happen again…in exactly the same way. Every single moment is unique. The events might have the potential to happen again but they will be on a different day, at a different time. This moment is all you have and this positive moment will not happen again. You can regret it, feel guilty that you missed it, feel shame, anger but all of those emotions will never bring this moment back and it is only this moment that gives you the positive potential to change your life and make living a positive experience.
So positive living is about living life to the fullest. It’s about handling our fears and negativity by acting on them or changing them by changing our perspective. Remember your life can never be like other peoples. Be proud of who you are and what you have achieved rather than being envious of others and playing down your expertise. Focus on the good things in life and show gratitude for the things you have not jealousy because there are some things you don’t have. Don’t be afraid to experience joy. Don’t always be the one that whinges and complains. It’s no fun being a victim all the time and no fun for the people listening to you. People get tired of it and even if they try to help you they get tired of having to do that all the time also because ultimately you are the only one that can help yourself. If you need more input and tools for that then find a really good therapist because your partner, your child, your friends are not your therapist. The moment you try to make them that the relationship becomes different and you are injecting negativity into a positive relationship. They can sympathise, they can advise you but if you find you are always having issues you need to honestly look at why. It takes a trained professional to assist you in doing that. Positive living is about beating the tough times, appreciating the moment and manifesting even greater positive moments in the future.
